PP #40: acceptance
and what comes after
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Let the chaos reign. Then, reign in chaos.
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Why was the Taj Mahal built? Why were the medical gloves invented? Why are companies built? Why do people flirt, sing and dance? Why do people cook?
If you are walking down the street and a lion suddenly blocks your path, you will be shocked. The body will go into a flight or fight response and depending upon the situation, you will either fight, or take a flight. It does not matter how tired you were, you will find yourself having the energy to do so.
Take another example - a teenager who has never lifted a dumbbell, will find the power to lift the car to free his father who’s stuck below it. How does this happen?
When you are in danger, your body starts releasing the reservoirs of energies stored. The science behind it is not today’s discussion (adrenaline etc.). We can acknowledge that our bodies are ready to keep us out of harm’s way.
It can also mean that if you are out of danger but hurt, it will start releasing soothing agents… and if the pain is unbearable, you will pass out - the body knocks you unconscious in order for you to survive.
The body has a lot of energy, insight & ability and it wants to ensure your survival.
What happens when a thorn prick’s a child's foot? Children cry. This crying is the body ensuring survival in various different dimensions:
Body: Soothing their pain
Mind: Distracting the kid from the pain
Societal (Communication): Making sure an adult or someone else knows something is wrong so that they fix it.
Because crying is the only way for the kid to express that something is amiss. And as a child, there are a lot of things amiss - everything is unknown and hence, fatal.
However, there are children who are more sensitive to their environment than others. When they cry for every small inconvenience, a little more than average kid, because of their natural hyper-sensitivity to the environment, the parents will have to be more caring, loving and patient till well in to the kid’s teenage.
But if the parent does not have the patience to nurture them, they will eventually get annoyed and resort to shouting, taunting, ignoring, blackmailing, gaslighting and at times, hitting the kids. (The parent is not wrong: don't forget - they were children too, with their own colorful lives).
The kid’s body and the mind will understand that the method for communication is not correct and will start to block it while trying to find other coping mechanisms. In case of extreme pain, it will simply knock them unconscious - they will not be present (now you know why doom scrolling works.)
As you grow up, this compounds. Insecurities, talents, love languages - most of these are learnt, along with learnt helplessness (the body keeps the score).
When an insecurity is triggered, the body interprets is as danger and starts to cash in the reservoirs of energies - fat, vibes etc. you name it (the concept that there are different types of energies like vibes, aura, confidence, raw magnetism, humor, peace, calming etc. is a totally different topic, but assumed that the reader agrees or is blatantly abhorrent) (yeah, I am showing off my vocabulary) (ok fine it was a extremely mean, the reader knows, or is chicha)
When an adult gets hurt, the energy is released, but they have a blocker (a wall per se) in them, which blocks the energy from being expended - the wall is the the insecurity, the learnt helplessness, or sometimes, the shock that something unexpected or unwanted has happened and it cannot be true.
The body releases the energies required, but the mind blocks them. And so, their is now double the pain - the actual hurt and the mental anguish, confusion, anxiety, anger etc. - you name it.
The mind also forgets that it has created the walls at a time when they were good, required even. But, now that the environment has changed, the walls are actually causing problems because of displaced energies - leading to the body going back to the basic - expending energies via crying - which is also good. Don't let things be bottled up, else they explode.
What is acceptance? It is the discovery and shedding of the walls that are no longer needed to block the energy… It’s dropping of the learnt helplessness and allowing yourself - your emotions, to be.
What comes after the acceptance? Channeling the energy to do something good.
Grief is love not knowing where to go.
Anxiety is inspiration not being acted upon.
Panic is the body thinking there is danger and supplying everything it got.
What do to once you let the walls down?
You choose where you want to channel all the energy. You start to reign the chaos.
The love for Mumtaz, after she was gone, found it’s way in the Taj Mahal.
The concern for a partner’s hands found it’s way in the medical gloves.
The need to prove oneself, leads to doing stupid, miraculous things - known as unicorn startups.
To love is to see and to grieve is to let the love be seen.
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